So Blessed to Have a Perfect Marriage

pefect marriage

It was a “good call” for this particular couple to approach my wife and I about their marital issues.  As Matt Carter was fine-tuning the Monday post, “I Can’t Tell My Pastor That,” my wife and I were counseling a younger couple through some of their marriage stuff.  They picked the right couple!  You see, my wife and I are far beyond the season of misunderstanding each other, having arguments, wanting to throw things at each other, and being selfish.  We’ve learned that as long as we both put God first (and we always do this), marriage just clicks like the second-hand of an old-school swatch-watch.  As the night closed in prayer, this couple left with a complete marriage make-over and my wife and I bowed in silence to the Lord of the Universe while praise music played in the background. (from the sky! It was a miracle)

Ok, for those of you that missed my sarcasm, here’s the truth.  When this couple discussed their issues, they were discussing them to a couple (me and my wife) with more experience and perhaps even more wisdom, but certainly not to “the better of the 2 couples.”

They didn’t pick the “right couple,” as far as us being “marriage superstars.”   However, considering God has intentionally placed us in their lives and them in ours, knitting our hearts together, sure; we were the “right couple” in that regard.

My wife and I are hardly beyond the season of imperfections.  In fact, it hasn’t been more than a year that we’ve sought out the same help our friends were seeking out tonight.  (Rest assured that our problems that we sought help for were all my wife’s fault, but that’s besides the point).  

You see, the fallacy about Pastors (and in the case, Pastor’s wives) is that they have the blueprint on kicking sin’s ass.  Many folks think, “When I struggle, I need to go the Pastor.  He’ll be able to help, since he’s learned how not to struggle.”  Let’s not forget:  PASTORS NEED COMMUNITY too; because they struggle.

In Matthew 26:40, we see that even Jesus needed community.

My wife and I know to put God first and the results will always be the perfect marriage.  However, we tend to have the heart of one of the fathers in the faith, Paul, who readily admits that the things he “knows to do,” he doesn’t do.  (See  Romans 7 for the exact quote.)

That night, this couple left as a work in progress.  My wife and I said good-bye to them as we ourselves also remained a work in progress.

The point of this post is not to dismiss the notion of discipleship.  Paul tells Timothy in 2 Timothy 2:2 to pass on wisdom to folks that will in turn pass it on to others.  We all know there’s no need to pass anything on to folks who already know “that something” you are trying to communicate.  Thus, by referencing this scripture, one must accept the biblical concept of a more experienced and wiser believer mentoring, counseling and discipling another.  As we all grow in the faith, there’s always some one older and wiser that can speak wisdom to us.  (Perhaps this isn’t the case with Billy Graham, cause that awesome dude is crazy old, but you get the point)

I’ll end with this.  There are always folks who are further along in their relationships with Jesus.  We can and should learn from them and even seek out regular meeting times with specific people who can regularly help us along these lines.  However, my wife and I can and should also learn from the couple who was seeking our help.  In fact, through the course of the conversation, our marriage was strengthened and our personal lives challenged.  This is because we are all under the same Lord who instructs us all.

Therefore, if the local homeless drunk genuinely accepts Christ one night and that very night you happen to walk by him only to hear him (and smell his breath) say, “Hey, brother.  I think God wants me to tell you something,”  you better be all ears.  The same Jesus that lives in you now lives in him also.

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